How to get your ex boyfriend back after no contact
No Contact can be tough, but you made it through! Now that your no contact period is coming to an end, here are the 10 things you absolutely have to do next. No Contact is still the best strategy to get your ex back. The KEY to getting your ex back is to build attraction naturally. The LAST thing you want to do is undo all the hard work that you put in over the last month or so. You do NOT want to transform back into the jealous, emotional, and hysterical version of yourself if that was the case.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Want Your Ex Back? Say This to Him… - Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy
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Get Your Ex Back After No Contact
So, you have almost finished the no contact rule and you still want your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend back.
It was hard at first. But somehow you managed to go 2 weeks, 30 days, 60 days or several months without contacting your ex. You have even taken steps to improve yourself and become a better version of you. You have made it through one of the hardest phases of getting your ex girlfriend or your ex boyfriend back. Unfortunately, the part up ahead can be just as hard, if not harder. You should have the right skills and tools at your disposal.
And most importantly, you should have a plan. In this article, I am going to list out 5 essential things you must do after no contact. What happens immediately after a breakup is usually a reaction. A reaction that comes out of instincts, neediness, desperation, immaturity or sometimes a power struggle. But once you are done with no contact, things have settled down.
What you do after no contact is important because this is the time when everything and everyone will show their true face. What you do right now can either help you both get back together and end up in a great relationship.
Or it can confirm that breaking up was the right decision. But if you play your cards right, make the right moves at the right time, you can increase the chances of ending up in a new and awesome relationship with your ex instead of losing him or her forever. I know because I have gone through thousands of cases of people trying to get back together.
So, if your instinct is to scroll down and move on to the second part of this article; think again. Having the right mindset is important. When it comes to love, there are two types of people in the world. People with the scarcity mindset. And people with the abundance mindset.
If you have a scarcity mindset. You are always afraid of losing what you have because you believe there is not enough of it. You believe if you lose your loved ones, you will never find love again. You feel the same way about happiness. About wealth, and even about your health. This is why people with the scarcity mindset always take action out of fear. Out of fear of losing the person they love.
Fear, is the greatest relationship killer of all time. The second relationship killers Facebook and social media are far behind it. Here are some of the titles Fear displays in its hall of fame. I digress. The point is, fear kills relationships. People who have the abundance mindset believe there is unlimited love and happiness in the world. They are not afraid to run out of love and happiness because they know that there is more waiting right around the corner.
The answer is no. In fact, people like that are also acting out of fear. But talking about that will make me digress again. People with abundance mindset are not afraid of losing their loved ones because they know they can always find love again. They are not afraid of being sad or hurt because they know they can find happiness again.
No one wants that. Instead, they act out of love, honesty and understanding. When you take fear out of the equation, it gets kind of easy to start and maintain a healthy relationship with a person of your choice. When you are going to end no contact, you must be prepared for the worst.
Be prepared for everything that might happen. For example, suppose you reach out to your ex via text. At this point, you must make a choice and figure out your next course of action. The choice you make will depend on your mindset. Having an abundance mindset does not necessarily mean you will stop feeling all those crazy emotions that have been programmed into your brain your instincts.
It means to feel those emotions and still decide to not let them control your actions. Having the right mindset will help you in every step of the way. A lot of times, you will have to choose between. By the way, did I tell you about the all time champion duo of keeping a relationship alive, healthy and thriving?
After all, you and your ex broke up for a reason. Something in your relationship was broken and you need to have the right tools and skills to fix it. Your old relationship is dead. But there is a good chance the old issues you had in the relationship will rise again. And this is one of the biggest hurdle your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend has in their mind.
If we get back together, things will be fine for a while and then we will fight again. This is why you need the right skills and tools when you are tackling these doubts. Every couple argues. But the difference between couples who thrive and couples who fall apart is effective communication.
If you can learn how to communicate with your partner effectively, you can turn your new relationship with your ex into something beautiful. How to communicate effectively in a relationship is beyond the scope of this article. But here are some resources that will help. I highly recommend this to all my clients. Seriously, reading this book will make you a pro at handling conflict. Of course, none of the above resources will teach you specifically how to communicate with your ex during conflict.
Meanwhile, check out my detailed guide on texting your ex. Being confident in yourself is one of the most attractive traits anyone can have. Think about it for a moment. Your ex is definitely attracted to you physically. But a lot of people lose their confidence during the course of a relationship. They start displaying lack of confidence through insecurity, neediness or desperation.
Luckily, confidence can be rebuilt using the right tools and making changes in your life. One of the fastest way to do so is by getting therapy and accepting yourself.
You can also choose to read some books on building your self confidence. A lot of times, couples break up due to circumstances. Sometimes, due to distance, due to lack of time, due to lack of efforts. In most cases, your ex will not consider getting back with you unless the circumstances have changed or you can SHOW them a solution for the problem that the circumstances created.
A simple way of showing them this is by using the extra time to do other activities that help you grow like going to the gym, pursuing a hobby, meeting a therapist etc. By showing them that you are spending time on things other than your business, you are showing them that circumstances and your priorities have changed and by extension, things will be different when you get back together.
Another common example is when a divorce is getting in the way of your new relationship. In this case, it will be ideal if you settle things with your ex wife or husband before ending no contact. No contact alone will not be enough to get your ex back. Sure, it can make your ex miss you. It can even make them doubt the breakup. But unless someone initiates contact after no contact is over; you and your ex will not get back together.
A lot of people resist towards the idea of making the first move. Here are some of things I hear from my readers. If you think the same way, I want you to go back to the first and second part of this article and read them again.
If you want to rebuild your relationship, you must not let fear dictate your actions. There are two major concerns here. Not wanting to look needy and wanting to have the upper hand power and control over the situation. But things are very different after no contact. Especially if you have made a lot of changes in yourself. If you have acquired the right mindset, the right tools, the right skills to approach this situation; then contacting your ex will not come off as needy.
This is my last chance and I want to do everything perfectly.
What To Do After The No Contact Period
So, you have almost finished the no contact rule and you still want your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend back. It was hard at first. But somehow you managed to go 2 weeks, 30 days, 60 days or several months without contacting your ex. You have even taken steps to improve yourself and become a better version of you.
The no contact rule refers to the act of taking a strategic break from your ex for a calculated duration of time. You literally hold back from contacting your ex via any medium belly-to-belly, text, call, social media, email, etc. Life is complex though. It must be said of course: you do risk making matters worse if your ex believes you are doing this as some kind of game or tactic you read online. Whether YOU will have success or not with your ex after no-contact depends on your situation, and on what happened between you both.
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But the rule has just as many beneficial effects on you, the person who is implementing it. It gives you some breathing room and allows you to recollect yourself after an emotionally tumultuous event such as a break-up. After a couple splits, both parties are emotionally tense. This, more often than not, affects us mentally and prevents us from thinking straight. It prevents us from continuing making mistakes or making any in the first place. It allows us to come back with a plan and make sure we are in the proper mindset, free of emotional dependency, unfearful of rejection, and devoid of any need for validation from our ex. Imagine you were a boxer in a fight.
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